DEAR ABBY: I would like your advice on how to handle a very difficult and tacky announcement.
I received an "elopement announcement," and I'd like to know the proper etiquette for responding to it. We are friends of the bride's parents, but neither my husband nor I has ever met the bride. This is her second elopement.
We have spoken to several friends and our own adult children, none of whom have ever heard of an "elopement announcement."
How should my husband and I respond? -- FAITHFUL READER, WAYNE, N.J.
DEAR FAITHFUL READER: There is nothing "tacky" about the happy couple sending you an elopement announcement. (Just substitute the word "wedding" for "elopement.") What better way to advise family and friends of the news of their marriage?
Since an announcement is not an invitation, you are under no obligation to respond to it. However, since you know the bride's parents, it would be gracious to send a note or card to congratulate the newlyweds.