DEAR ABBY: I used to have the same problem as "Exasperated in Massachusetts." My 75-year-old retired father couldn't seem to understand why I couldn't drop everything at the last minute to go to a movie, go to dinner, etc. I really did want to spend time with him. I just couldn't seem to fit it in.
Then I did a "trade-out" with him. If he wanted to go to dinner, I'd ask him to pick up the dry cleaning, go to the bank for me and pick up the kids -- whatever it took to allow me time to go with him. Dinner at home -- no problem. He cooked his specialty, and we all helped clean up.
My father is older now and not well, but I'm glad we had those times together -- and I miss all those things he did so we could have time together. -- HAPPY TO HAVE HAD HELP, RENO, NEV.
DEAR HAPPY: Beautiful! Dad remained needed and useful, and you all benefited by enjoying memorable times together. Kudos to you for coming up with a compromise that made everyone happy.