DEAR ABBY: The young mother-to-be fails to realize that her refusal to name her son after her husband's grandfathers is equally inflexible. While honoring his grandfather may be more important to him than considering the wishes of his wife, getting her way in naming the child may be more important to her than considering the wishes of her husband. It is all a matter of perspective.
The most important consideration should be the effect of the name as the child is growing up. (Let's hope the names are not so unusual or outdated as to cause the child embarrassment when he goes to school.) Beyond that, the one to whom the issue is least important should concede the point. The compromises you suggested are valid. -- JOSEPH BUTLER, CLARKSTON, GA.
DEAR JOSEPH: I regret to say that you and I were overwhelmingly outvoted on this one. However, you have made some valid points. Thanks for the input.
As much as I would have liked to print more of the fascinating responses I received on this subject, space limitations do not permit it.