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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: I am a sophomore in college. Last summer I met a wonderful young man. He gave me his phone number, and a week later, we went on our first date. When he asked me out for a second date, I accepted.

In the months that followed, he became the love of my life. We fell in love and I became part of his family. We found everything we had been looking for in each other. He was the first to mention marriage and having a family -- he even talked about where he'd like us to live. He promised nothing would ever come between us.

After all these promises, he just informed me that his career is his No. 1 priority now, and he doesn't have time for me. His change of heart came about abruptly, and I don't know why. I am devastated. I know there are many fish in the sea, but he's the only fish I want.

This breakup is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. Every day I pray we'll get back together. Abby, have you any suggestions for mending a broken heart? -- BROKENHEARTED IN WAUSAU, WIS.

DEAR BROKENHEARTED: Yes. Don't sit alone and brood. Attend parties, school affairs and develop new interests. One of the most effective therapies for a broken heart is to keep busy! Avoid the "old reminders" that tend to make you moody and broody, such as "your" song.

Get rid of the photographs of you with him -- as well as any souvenirs or gifts he gave you.

Once a relationship is over, all of the note-writing, phoning or conniving will not help your cause. Don't ask a mutual friend to help you "get him back." It will only make you appear foolish.

Chalk this up to experience. There is no growth without some pain. And remember, it only hurts for a little while.

DEAR ABBY: I know your column deals mainly with people's problems, but occasionally I see a humorous item included. Since the computer is thrust on me whether I like it or not, I'm enclosing an original poem that shows how I feel about their "infallibility"!

I hope you get a smile out of it, as I often get a smile out of your column, among the more serious items. -- LORAINE REXFORD, FORT LAUDERDALE, FLA.

DEAR LORAINE: The poem is witty, and I'm sure my readers will find it as amusing as I did. Read on:




THEE spell check on my computer

Tells WON if a word is an AIR,

I'm SEW glad TWO have this convenience

We FILL BETTOR because it is THEIR.

WEE RING ARE hands when we're worried

ARE spelling may KNOT BEE WRITE,

Webster WOOD TERN INN his grave


SEAMS the old-fashioned dictionary

Showed AWL the words clear and clean.

SEW what WOOD WEE DUE without it

TWO SEA if words say what WEE mean?

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