DEAR ABBY: My only sister recently suggested that she stop giving gifts for special occasions to my three children who have reached the age of 20, but I should continue to give HER children (who are 6 and 8 years old) gifts until they reach the age of 20.
I am uncomfortable shopping for gifts for her children while she totally ignores mine. What do you think?
Please rush your answer because this disagreement is affecting our relationship. -- APPALLED IN PORTLAND, ORE.
DEAR APPALLED: I agree with your sister. Your children are adults. She has given them gifts for the last 20 years. You should do the same for her children without demanding tit for tat. But suggest that she send cards to your children on important occasions.