DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 44 years and thought I knew my husband well.
Twice recently I returned home earlier than he expected, and I found him watching pornographic movies! He is 73 years old with a problem due to prostate surgery. Abby, this has bothered me so much I am almost in a daze since this happened.
I consider myself a fun-loving, broad-minded person, but this is so contrary to my nature, I cannot accept it.
Who has the problem? Him or me?
I have not been able to discuss this with him yet. I await your advice. -- A PERPLEXED READER
DEAR PERPLEXED: As I see it, the problem lies in your inability to accept the fact that your husband enjoys watching pornographic movies. (Many people do.) You should make an attempt to discuss it with him. However, do not make an issue of it.
Because of your husband's prostate surgery, he may require visual stimulation to become aroused. He should talk to his doctor for further reassurance and medical help if it's indicated. He may be unaware that most cases of impotence can be treated.