DEAR ABBY: My husband and I were married three years ago in a small ceremony. Since our wedding was small, we decided not to have bridesmaids or groomsmen. One of my husband's closest friends came to the ceremony, but claims he "got lost" on the way to the reception. Needless to say, he never made it to the reception, nor did he present us with a wedding gift.
Now, three years later, this friend is getting married. He has asked my husband to be a groomsman (requiring him to rent a $60 tuxedo), and has already invited us to a "pantry and tool" shower.
In light of the fact that he never bought us a wedding gift, I have a problem buying him a wedding gift, much less a shower gift.
How would you handle this? -- TICKED OFF IN TALLAHASSEE
DEAR TICKED OFF: If your husband accepts the honor of being a groomsman, he is obligated to buy a wedding gift. And if you and your husband attend the shower, you'll be expected to bring a shower gift. Let bygones be bygones.