DEAR ABBY: My dear friend has a habit that is driving me crazy. She comes to my house often, which is not the problem. But when she is there, she checks out any invitations, notices or upcoming events I've circled and put on my refrigerator or clipped to a magnet. She then asks who, what, when and why. I've become so uncomfortable I put everything away when she comes to visit.
It's not funny anymore when she "jokingly" says, "Oh, you're doing this with your other friends." We spend a great deal of time together, but I do have other friends and I don't always want to include her. Do you have any suggestions? -- HATE TO BE RUDE
DEAR HATE TO BE RUDE: Your friend is trying to put you on the spot, but you are under no obligation to justify your other activities to her. The next time she comments, say, "Yes, I'm looking forward to that." Then turn the conversation to another topic.