DEAR ABBY: You recently printed a letter from a woman who is involved with an HIV-positive man. I tested positive seven years ago and am still as healthy as ever. To others in her situation I would say: Go ahead and live your lives. It would be sad to break off a promising relationship for fear of an illness that may never happen. However, at the same time, be wise and make a plan for what you'll do if he does get sick. This same advice applies to any mature couple.
I'd like to offer a list of suggestions that might be valuable to anyone who tests HIV-positive:
1. Make sure you have good health insurance. Get medical exams several times a year from a doctor who has experience with HIV. This is important so that potential infections can be nipped in the bud.
2. Reduce the stress in your life. Stress can weaken the immune system.
3. Don't waste energy feeling ashamed about HIV. It's just a particle of protein. Let family and friends know, by your example, that you're the same person you always were.
4. Learn as much as you can about HIV treatments. Many people with HIV never develop AIDS, and new medicines are helping people with AIDS live longer and better lives. You are your own best advocate.
5. Expect to experience periods of fear, sadness and anger. Talk about your feelings with someone you trust, and don't be afraid to ask for help. A support group of other people in your situation can be an excellent way to deal with feelings and share information. -- LIVING WELL IN KENNEBUNK, MAINE
DEAR LIVING WELL: I'm sure that many people will benefit from your sensible suggestions. Thank you for a helpful letter.