DEAR ABBY: A relative of mine got a divorce after being married for 20 years. She has not remarried, but her ex-husband did.
He died a few months ago, and now my cousin is going around wearing black and calling herself a widow.
Abby, isn't she still a divorcee? -- CURIOUS IN CHICAGO
DEAR CURIOUS: Yes. Your cousin is a divorcee whose former husband is deceased. A man leaves only one widow -- the woman to whom he was married at the time of his death.