DEAR ABBY: Many a food server has lost a tip because of the following comments:
1. Do you guys want anything else?
2. Your hair sure is pretty. Where do you have it done?
3. That's a beautiful blouse. Where did you buy it? How much was it?
This has happened to my husband and me in all types of restaurants. When we go out to dine, we do not care to carry on a personal conversation with the person who has been hired to serve us. -- EX-WAITRESS
DEAR EX: This may have happened to you in "all types" of restaurants, but in first-class restaurants, food servers know better than to ask, "Do you guys want anything else?" Comments about the customer's grooming and wearing apparel are also inappropriate.
You could have given your server(s) a tip far more valuable than money if you had spoken up.