DEAR ABBY: I received an engraved invitation that has me more than a little puzzled. The invitation is to a "commitment ceremony" for two men, followed by a reception at a swanky downtown hotel.
I have been friendly with one of these men for more than 30 years. Only recently he told me he is gay. I do not want to do anything that would offend him, and I have indicated that I will attend the ceremony and reception.
I have no idea of the protocol for such an occasion. While it's not a wedding per se, that is the idea. Do I take a gift? If so, what kind of gift is appropriate? The parties involved are highly successful businessmen -- one is a magazine editor, the other a prominent lawyer. They don't need a blender.
This is a first for me. I want to express my respect for the union my friend and his partner are forming. What would you do, Abby? -- MINNEAPOLIS READER
DEAR READER: I would treat their "commitment ceremony" as though it were a wedding, because that is what it is to them and those who care about them.
Yes, do send a gift. Something for their home would be nice.