DEAR ABBY: This is in response to the letter from "New Jersey Reader" who attended a wedding where the bride's grandmother pushed the younger women out of the way so she could catch the bouquet.
At my wedding seven years ago, my grandmother also made sure she caught the bouquet. But unlike "New Jersey Reader," I was delighted -- and proud! (My grandparents' marriage lasted more than 40 years before Grandpa passed away.) Everyone had a great time at our reception, and the "bouquet incident" (as it has become known) made the event even more memorable.
My grandmother still has the bouquet, and I know that it's very special to her. She always had a beautiful flower garden, and she was the one who supplied most of the flowers for our wedding.
I don't remember who caught the garter, but I'll always remember who caught the bouquet! -- DEBRA STALNAKER, HELENA, MONT.
DEAR DEBRA: Your grandmother sounds like a special lady. Thanks for sharing a lovely memory.