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by Abigail Van Buren

Lying in the Name of Love Has Hateful Consequences

DEAR ABBY: Our friend "Mary" and her late husband raised six successful adult children, all professionals and most have multiple degrees.

We are upset by the way they treat their aged and disabled mother. They mock her disabilities and diminished hearing in front of her friends -- even strangers. We are embarrassed and angered, but do we have the right to say anything to her brood? Or should we continue to keep quiet? -- SACRAMENTO SAM AND VALLEY TOM

DEAR SAM AND TOM: You not only have the right, but an obligation to say plenty concerning the shabby treatment to which this aged and disabled woman is being subjected. Silence in this case is unforgivable!