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by Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: I read your column and find it entertaining and often educational. But I think you have a problem. Today I read a "true" story in your column about a woman who couldn't remember the name of someone she ran into on the street. As she racked her brain, the other lady mentioned something about her brother. Figuring it might give her a clue to the lady's identity, the woman asked, "Your dear brother -- what is he doing these days?"

"He's still president of the United States," she replied. (She was Calvin Coolidge's sister.)

Well, Abby, that's a cute story, but it cannot possibly be true. President Coolidge's only sister died in 1890, many years before he became president in 1923.

If you print this, please do not use my name. -- TEXAS READER

DEAR TEXAS READER: Well, hit me with a history book -- but please, not too hard because I'm beginning to feel like a battered woman. I apologize for the error.

DEAR ABBY: Regarding "Frank's Wife in Springfield, Va.," whose husband wouldn't help with the thank-you notes for their wedding gifts: Thank you for printing her letter. It makes me realize once again how fortunate I am.

My husband and I have been married for almost six months. Not only did he help me address and mail all 250 of our wedding invitations, he also willingly helped me write and mail all of our thank-you notes. I'm a very lucky woman and say a prayer of thanks each night before I go to sleep.

My husband cooks most of the meals (he is an excellent cook, I might add) and helps me clean up afterward. On the weekends, he might do something with a friend from work, but only if it doesn't interfere with something that we might do together. This includes going to church, going shopping and cleaning our home.

He does little things for me all the time, and brings me little surprises such as my favorite snack or a bouquet of flowers. "Anything to make you happy," he says. I hope he realizes that he can't possibly make me any happier than he made me six months ago.

I don't think this is something that will soon pass. My husband and I dated for many years before we were married, and he treated me this way when we were dating.

I wanted to send you a new twist to the "husband" letters. Your single female readers need to know that thoughtful, wonderful men do exist. -- DAVID'S WIFE IN TENNESSEE

DEAR DAVID'S WIFE: Thanks for the reminder. From time to time I get letters from men telling me they are disillusioned because they were taught to treat women with respect, and for that they have gotten nothing but rejection. You knew how to recognize a man with quality. May you both enjoy many healthy, happy years together.

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