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by Abigail Van Buren

Good Story Is Bad History, We Learn to Our Chagrin

DEAR ABBY: Regarding "Frank's Wife in Springfield, Va.," whose husband wouldn't help with the thank-you notes for their wedding gifts: Thank you for printing her letter. It makes me realize once again how fortunate I am.

My husband and I have been married for almost six months. Not only did he help me address and mail all 250 of our wedding invitations, he also willingly helped me write and mail all of our thank-you notes. I'm a very lucky woman and say a prayer of thanks each night before I go to sleep.

My husband cooks most of the meals (he is an excellent cook, I might add) and helps me clean up afterward. On the weekends, he might do something with a friend from work, but only if it doesn't interfere with something that we might do together. This includes going to church, going shopping and cleaning our home.

He does little things for me all the time, and brings me little surprises such as my favorite snack or a bouquet of flowers. "Anything to make you happy," he says. I hope he realizes that he can't possibly make me any happier than he made me six months ago.

I don't think this is something that will soon pass. My husband and I dated for many years before we were married, and he treated me this way when we were dating.

I wanted to send you a new twist to the "husband" letters. Your single female readers need to know that thoughtful, wonderful men do exist. -- DAVID'S WIFE IN TENNESSEE

DEAR DAVID'S WIFE: Thanks for the reminder. From time to time I get letters from men telling me they are disillusioned because they were taught to treat women with respect, and for that they have gotten nothing but rejection. You knew how to recognize a man with quality. May you both enjoy many healthy, happy years together.