DEAR ABBY: I am very concerned about the letter signed "Wiser Now," regarding the use of fire extinguishers in the kitchen.
Just last week on our local television channel, the guest was a woman from the fire department. She stressed that one should not always use a fire extinguisher to put out a fire on one's kitchen stove. I had always thought the same as the lady who wrote to you. The fire department representative said that the force of the foam coming out of the nozzle can be so strong it simply blows the flames around the stove or curtains. She recommended using a lid -- or better yet, a cookie sheet -- to slide over the pan to smother the flames.
She also said never to use baking soda, because it can explode the flames. -- MRS. ORRIN T. WELLS, SAN MARCOS, CALIF.
DEAR MRS. WELLS: Julie Reynolds, director of public affairs for the National Fire Protection Association, confirmed that in the case of a pan fire, a fire extinguisher used too close to the pan could splatter the fire, spreading it further around the kitchen. The safer method is to smother the fire by carefully sliding a lid over the pan and then turning the burner off. Lifting the lid to see if the fire is out will allow oxygen to rekindle the flames. Also, it is very dangerous to attempt to carry a burning pan to the sink or outside. The flames could easily ignite clothing or other combustibles, causing dangerous burns and spreading the fire.
While baking soda may be used to extinguish flames, the National Fire Protection Association does not recommend it since it requires one to be near the flames. (In addition, if the wrong substance -- flour or baking powder -- is grabbed, it could create a larger and more dangerous blaze.)
For fires in other parts of the house, it is vital that you have the proper extinguisher for the type of fire you need to fight, and that you know how to operate it. If a fire is small and contained (such as fire in a wastebasket), using the proper fire extinguisher may be the best approach, but in some cases, it's wiser to leave the premises and call the fire department.
DEAR ABBY: I am 24 and my boyfriend, "Jerry," is 27. We have been dating almost a year.
Our relationship is terrific except for one problem. Jerry talks in his sleep and says the names of different women in a sexual way -- almost like he's having sex with them. Abby, I recognize a few of the names because he either works with them or we have mutual friends. I have asked Jerry about these women, and he swears he's not fantasizing about anyone or seeing anyone else. He doesn't remember dreaming about these women or calling out any names.
This is beginning to affect our relationship, Abby. I'm deeply hurt and confused, and I don't know what to do. Should I ignore it? -- ALLISON IN GALVESTON
DEAR ALLISON: It's not surprising that your boyfriend has no recollection of what he dreamed or that he talked in his sleep. Dreams are an activity of the unconscious mind, and just because someone dreams something does not mean he or she would actually do it. (I have heard from readers who dreamed of walking naked down Main Street or into a court of law -- something few would do in the cold light of day.)
Don't take your boyfriend's sleep-talking personally. If you cannot ignore it, try earplugs or separate bedrooms.
CONFIDENTIAL TO JEANNE, MY BEAUTIFUL FIRSTBORN OF WHOM I'M VERY PROUD: Happy birthday. You're loved.
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