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by Abigail Van Buren

Mother Struggles to Tell Kids That Dad's 'Trip' Was to Jail

DEAR ABBY: I am a 36-year-old married woman. I have a wonderful husband and two beautiful children. I have everything I want in life, except for the fact that we live far away from our families and friends, although we see them often.

When I get together with old friends, I become very nostalgic and have the urge to get in touch with one of my old boyfriends.

Abby, is there anything wrong with this? Is there anything wrong with wanting to know how he is and what he has done with his life? -- NOSTALGIC IN SPRINGFIELD, VA.

DEAR NOSTALGIC: It is only natural to let your mind wander back to the years when you were footloose and fancy-free -- and even romantically involved with someone else. Getting in touch with an old "flame" may seem innocent, but it could start a fire that is not easily extinguished.

Play it safe -- steer clear of old flames and you'll never get singed.