DEAR ABBY: I am a male in my mid-30s and have been divorced for nearly two years. For the past year, I have been casually dating. During this period, a friend of mine passed away suddenly. His widow is everything I would ever want in a wife. Our families have participated in many activities together -- baseball games, zoo, picnics, movies, etc. Our children get along great. I never intended to fall in love, but I have.
I know I am ready to move on with my life. But I don't know when my friend will be -- if ever. How will I know when the time is right? She is truly a diamond, and I don't want to lose her -- or our friendship. Please help me. -- IN LOVE
DEAR IN LOVE: I wish all the questions I am asked were as easy to answer. Invite her to dinner without the children and tell her how you feel.