DEAR ABBY: My friend and I belong to the same organization. Recently her husband was arrested for fraud and absconding with funds from his employer. He was found guilty and is now serving time in prison.
Whenever I see this woman, I want to ask her how her husband is, and how she's doing. I am truly concerned about her welfare, but I don't know whether it would be appropriate to ask her since she has never spoken about it. I learned that her husband went to prison when I read it in the paper.
I don't want to offend her by asking. Your advice would be greatly appreciated. -- IN DOUBT
DEAR IN DOUBT: When you see your friend, ask her how her husband is doing -- it will open the door for further conversation concerning his incarceration should she want to talk about it. You will know by her response whether she appreciates your having asked about him.
If any of my readers have experienced this situation, I would like to hear from them. I will keep your identity confidential.