DEAR ABBY: My husband and I are having a disagreement. We live in a military community and my husband is a retired naval officer. He insists that our 12-year-old daughter address retired and/or active duty military personnel by their rank, e.g., "Lt. Browne."
We have taught her to address adults as Mr., Mrs., Ms. or Dr., but I don't believe it should be extended to ranks in the military. I think it's difficult for her to remember what a person's rank is. What do you think? I told my husband I would write to you and abide by your decision. -- PERPLEXED IN SILVERDALE
DEAR PERPLEXED: I agree with your husband. A 12-year-old (especially the daughter of a naval officer) should have no trouble remembering the rank of her father's fellow officers. And if she is in doubt, she could ask her parents.