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by Abigail Van Buren

Grandpa Fears His Grandsons Take Part in Bedroom Cover Up

DEAR ABBY: My grandsons are 16, 18 and 20 years old, and they all have girlfriends. Each also has his own bedroom.

When I visit my son's house a few times each week, the boys are always in their bedrooms with their girlfriends -- with their doors closed, supposedly listening to music or watching a movie on television. My son and daughter-in-law are either in other rooms, or outside in their pool, and choose not to disturb them.

Abby, knowing teen-agers have raging hormones, I don't think this is a very good policy, but I don't feel it's my place to say anything.

My son and daughter-in-law's attitude is, "Get with it -- this is the '90s," -- whatever that's supposed to mean.

What do you make of this, Abby? -- OLD-FASHIONED GRANDPA

DEAR GRANDPA: I'm "old-fashioned," too. What goes on behind closed doors could be perfectly innocent, but I see no reason why your grandsons can't watch movies or listen to music with their doors open. Young people need some privacy, but too much of a good thing can result in temptations too intense to resist.

Talk to your son and daughter-in-law and share the wisdom of your years by suggesting an "open-door" policy.