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by Abigail Van Buren

Love at First Sight May Deserve a Closer Look

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been friends with another couple for the past five years. During social occasions with these people, they will speak to each other in Spanish. My husband and I do not speak Spanish, and they know this. By the way, they both speak fluent English as their first language.

I am now to the point where I would prefer not to be around them.

What do you think? Should we say anything to them about this? And if so, what? -- ANNOYED IN NEW MEXICO

DEAR ANNOYED: If you value their friendship, by all means tell them how you feel when they speak Spanish to each other in your presence.

If they continue speaking Spanish in your presence, you will know that they do not value your friendship.