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by Abigail Van Buren

Wife's Disregard for Doctors Is Making Her Husband Sore

DEAR ABBY: My problem is my wife. She will not go to the doctor for regular checkups. She is 43, a professional, and we are not poor.

We have no children. She is apparently healthy, but she refuses to go for checkups, Pap smears, mammograms, etc. Her last visit to a doctor was at least eight years ago. (She also rarely goes to a dentist.)

I have yelled, threatened, cajoled, asked nicely, clipped newspaper and magazine articles concerning the necessity for women to get regular checkups -- nothing works. I go to the doctor regularly and I'm sure she realizes it's important, but she will not do it.

We have been married for 13 years. I love her very much and would like to grow old with her. What can I do? -- OUT OF IDEAS

DEAR OUT OF IDEAS: Short of hog-tying her, there is nothing you can do. Every intelligent person realizes that routine periodic checkups (physical and dental) are essential to maintaining good health, and early detection in case there is a problem has saved many lives.

All you can do is pray that your wife continues to be one of the lucky ones.

DEAR ABBY: I know that you probably don't think that you need another hiccup cure, but let me assure you that I have used this trick now for nearly 10 years, and I am usually very successful.

I was convinced after the development of the Heimlich maneuver that it was possible to eliminate annoying hiccups with a simple maneuver without the need for sugar, water, pencils, etc., which may not always be available on short notice.

I have suffered with hiccups for years. I get them easily, and I have mastered this technique so well that I usually can eliminate them in one attempt -- and I can do this anywhere, anytime.

This is all you have to do: Focus on your breathing -- do not get distracted; take several deep breaths (hold the last one for as long as possible); then, before you exhale, swallow. Novices may need four or five tries -- but it gets easy with practice. Concentrating on the breathing and swallowing before you exhale are the keys to success.

I hope that you will pass this on to your readers. You may call it "Marie's Maneuver" or "Beyer's Remedy," but whatever you call it -- it has been invaluable to me, and I am sure it will be appreciated by those who try it. -- MARIE BEYER, EAST BRUNSWICK, N.J.

DEAR MARIE: I have been carrying your sure cure for the hiccups around for weeks, hoping to put it to the test, but I haven't had the hiccups. (Perhaps just carrying the "cure" has been a preventative?)

If one of my readers tries it and finds it helpful, please let me know.

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