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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: I am writing for the four of us who are widows. We would like to know the proper time to stop wearing our wedding rings. Is it proper to continue wearing them as long as we are not looking for another mate?

We all four have different views on the subject. Please let us know, Abby. I'm sure there are others out there who would also like to know. -- WONDERING WIDOWS

DEAR WONDERING: A widow who has no interest in looking for another mate may continue to wear her wedding ring on the third finger of her left hand; it will serve as a very effective "stop" sign should a single man find her attractive. (Not always -- but usually.) Widows who want to date again wisely switch their wedding band to the other hand or retire it to the jewelry box.