DEAR ABBY: My fiance, "Jack," agreed to be the best man at the upcoming wedding of his friend, "Alan."
Alan and I are acquainted, and he knows that Jack and I have been engaged for over a year. The problem is that I did not get an invitation to the wedding. Some mutual friends got their invitation a couple of weeks ago, so I know the invitations have already been sent out.
It is my understanding that the members of the wedding party should also be sent invitations as a matter of courtesy -- but Alan and his bride-to-be have not done this.
Jack says that they probably just assume that I will also attend, because he will be the best man.
Abby, I would feel uncomfortable going to a wedding and reception to which I was not invited.
Also, I'm not sure it was an innocent oversight, because Alan has tried to set Jack up with other women in the past, knowing full well he is engaged to me.
What should I do, if anything? -- SNUBBED
DEAR SNUBBED: Tell Jack that you are offended at having been "overlooked" -- and you'd feel more welcome if you were to receive an invitation. And since the bride sends the invitations, she should be reminded. But whether you receive a formal invitation or not, you'd be foolish to sit home while your fiance is dancing at the wedding!