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by Abigail Van Buren

Pro-Choicer Says Adoption Speaks Louder Than Words

DEAR ABBY: To the Caucasian couple with the adopted Korean child: I, too, have been confronted by many unthinking strangers with rude comments. My most memorable occurred while grocery shopping with my blond-haired, blue-eyed biological son and my dark-haired, dark-complexioned adopted daughter.

A woman approached me and asked, "Are these your children?"

"Yes," I answered.

"Different fathers?" she asked.

"Yes, and different mothers, too," I replied.

"Oh," she said, looking confused. "With people sleeping around so much these days, I just thought --" I didn't let her finish. I just walked away and left her with her big mouth hanging open. -- C.M. IN APPLE VALLEY, MINN.