DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old future bride with a small problem. My mother and father were divorced when I was 10, and my mother married "Len" a year later. Len has been a wonderful stepfather whom I love dearly. My biological father and I had problems during my adolescent years. (We didn't speak to each other for four years.) My stepfather (Len) was a far more loving father to me -- in fact, he was the one who got me together again with my biological father.
Now I am going to be married. I read in a bridal magazine that where there is a biological father and stepfather involved, the bride's biological father is supposed to walk her down the aisle and give her away in marriage, and the stepfather has the privilege of dancing the first dance with the bride.
Is this the proper arrangement? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I have always had a much better relationship with my stepfather. -- HAPPY BUT CONFUSED
DEAR HAPPY: There are no hard and fast "rules" when it comes to weddings. If you're having problems deciding which man should walk you down the aisle, why not give both of them the honor? It has been done -- and with great success. Also consider walking down the aisle alone. It's the choice of many brides, and makes an impressive sight.