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by Abigail Van Buren

Brother-in-Law's Hug Too Close for Teen's Comfort

DEAR ABBY: I am a 13-year-old girl. I have a sister who is 19 and has been married for a year. One day last week, her husband told me how beautiful he thought I was and how much I had developed lately.

Later he gave me a ride to my girlfriend's house to pick up my bike. On the way back it was quite dark. All of a sudden he stopped the truck and asked me for a hug. I thought, "What the heck, he did me a favor to drive me to pick up my bike, so it's no big deal to give him a hug." Well, it was a real long hug, and he wouldn't let me go. Then he asked me for a kiss, and I said, "No way ... no, NO!" He knew I really meant it, so he let me go. Neither one of us said a word until he dropped me off at my house.

I really feel uncomfortable around him now. I can't tell my sister or anyone else because my sister really loves him and I couldn't live with myself if I made trouble in her marriage.

If you want to print this to warn other teens who may run into a problem like this, please don't use my name. -- THE KID SISTER

DEAR SISTER: You were very, very wise. Thanks for sharing your experience as a warning to other young girls who could be taken advantage of by a relative or close friend.