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by Abigail Van Buren

Amorous Couple Stirs Widow to Light Up Her Lonely Life

DEAR ABBY: I am a very healthy 74-year-old widow. My first and only husband died five years ago at the age of 75. Our sex life had been non-existent for five years prior to his death.

I have a ladyfriend, 77 years old, who recently married for the third time. Her new husband is 87 and apparently is in fine physical condition for his age. According to my ladyfriend, they are having sex at least twice a week. Is this biologically possible for an old married couple who are respectively 87 and 77 years of age?

If my ladyfriend is telling me the truth, perhaps I should intensify my efforts to find such a husband to bring some spice into my lonely life. -- ENVIOUS WIDOW

DEAR WIDOW: Whether your ladyfriend is telling you the truth, only she knows. For a newlywed couple of any age to have sex "at least twice a week" is quite believable.

But if you're feeling "envious," Widow, perhaps your ladyfriend should ask her new husband if he has a friend who's young at heart.