DEAR ABBY: In our area, we have a young, growing family with children. The wife's mother lived with this family until she passed away nearly two years ago. The wife -- I'll call her Mrs. J. -- has kept the room her mother slept in exactly like it was while she lived there. Her clothes and shoes are in the closet and dresser drawers. All that is ever done to this room is the cleaning.
The growing family could make good use of this room, yet Mrs. J. insists that it remain just as it was when it was last occupied.
Abby, is Mrs. J. all there, or is there something wrong upstairs? -- BAFFLED AND CURIOUS
DEAR B. AND C.: Obviously, it gives a measure of comfort to keep the room once occupied by her mother exactly as it was while her mother was alive. If Mrs. J. wants to make a shrine of that room, whom is she hurting?