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by Abigail Van Buren

Parents' Reluctance to Discuss Sex Disturbs This Candid Mom

DEAR ABBY: I am writing to you for advice about a dilemma that I never thought would happen to me.

Several months ago, I asked a girl to attend the high school prom with me. She didn't say yes, but she didn't say no either. A couple of weeks later, I asked her again, and she was very evasive. Tired of her games, I asked another girl and she said yes right away. When the first girl found out that I had asked someone else to the prom, she became moody and distant. Then I found out through the grapevine that she had bought a prom dress on the assumption that she was going with me.

I have no sympathy for her. Her indefinite replies left me second-guessing, so I asked somebody else. Now several people seem to think that I am at fault. The way I see it, since I asked her twice without getting a definite response, I think I should be allowed to ask somebody else. Am I right? -- SELF-DEFENSE

DEAR SELF-DEFENSE: You are absolutely right, beyond a shadow of a doubt!