DEAR ABBY: The problem I'm about to tell you is one you probably never heard before.
My husband and I have been married for 14 years and have two great sons. My husband and I have had problems we've tried to resolve with counseling, but the counseling didn't work, so I decided I wanted to leave him while I was young enough to make a happier life for myself.
I called my father-in-law and asked to see him privately so he wouldn't be too shocked when I left his son. Well, he picked me up and we went for a drive out in the country.
When I gave him my news -- he gave me some. He said he and his wife never had a really good marriage, but he stayed with her because of their children, who are all grown now. Then he told me he's always had special feelings for me -- but he would never follow through on them because I belonged to his son.
To make a long story short, we confessed our love for each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together, but we don't know how my sons will feel about having their grandfather for a stepfather. It's a mess, but you only live once. What should we do? -- TRUE STORY
DEAR TRUE STORY: You both need to see a marriage counselor -- but not the one you and your husband saw. Please, think this out carefully and make no announcements before you are certain that your decisions are sound, solid and will stand the test of time.