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by Abigail Van Buren

Dad's Walking in on Couple Has Girlfriend Ready to Run

DEAR ABBY: Something terribly embarrassing happened to me yesterday -- it's every young woman's nightmare.

My boyfriend's father walked in on us during a very, very private moment. We are both in our early 20s and have been dating for three years and plan to marry next year when we graduate from college.

I don't know if this was a surprise for his father since his son and I have been dating for a long time, but I am very embarrassed about the situation. How can I ever face this man again? He told his son to let me know that he was very sorry, and he didn't mean to invade our privacy. I felt a little better about the situation, but I'm still too embarrassed to look the man in the face.

Do you think he feels differently about me now? And how can I deal with this? -- EMBARRASSED

DEAR EMBARRASSED: There is nothing you can do about the past, so there's no point in agonizing over it. If your boyfriend's father is somewhat sophisticated and worldly, chances are he is not nearly as shocked as you are embarrassed. The best way to deal with it is to say nothing.