DEAR ABBY: I am a 44-year-old divorcee who married a 34-year-old man last December.
The problem is, he wants us to have a baby together. Abby, I already have two teen-agers by a previous marriage and I feel that I am getting too old to start a second family. However, I want to keep my husband happy.
What is your opinion? Should we try to adopt? We are both professionals, so money isn't the problem. -- CAN'T DECIDE
DEAR CAN'T DECIDE: This is one decision that you must make yourselves. Sit down together and make a list of all the advantages of having the baby. Then list the possible disadvantages. Next, list all the advantages and disadvantages of adopting a child.
You say you want to keep your husband happy, which is both generous and admirable. But it is equally important that the decision will also keep you happy.