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by Abigail Van Buren

Wife's Green-Eyed Monster Makes Husband See Red

DEAR ABBY: A friend gave me an idea she said came from your column years ago that solved the "thank-you note" problem in her family. I use it with my two children and it works!

They may not spend the money, play with the toy or wear the clothing until their thank-you notes are written. I began this practice when they were too young to do it for themselves. Now, my 5-year-old dictates his note to me and I write it verbatim (which amazes him) and then he signs it! My 9-year-old does it herself.

I have tried to remind them if they were the sender, they would like to know how the recipient felt about the gift -- or even if it arrived. -- LINDA BYZEWSKI, KINGMAN, ARIZ.