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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman's Marriage to Bisexual Is Troubled by Threat of Aids

DEAR ABBY: My husband (I'll call him Barry) received an invitation to the wedding of his first cousin -- I'll call him Joe. I realize that the wedding invitations were sent out by Joe's fiancee, whom we have never met, but it was addressed only to my husband, Barry. We have been married for 15 years and have two children. We see Joe only once or twice a year and he knows that we are married.

Am I to assume that I am not invited to this wedding? Or am I to assume it was an oversight on the part of Joe's fiancee? Also, are the children invited? -- BARRY'S WIFE

DEAR WIFE: Your husband should call his cousin Joe, and explain this dilemma. I hope Joe will advise his fiancee that cousin Barry has a wife and two children, after which you will probably be invited. But don't bring your children unless they are specifically invited.