DEAR ABBY: Please tell me if I am right or wrong. My daughter-in-law's brother, "Bob," was married last week, and I was invited to the wedding. It was a big social event, and one of the most beautiful weddings ever held in our cathedral.
My daughter, "Lisa," was not invited, and now she's mad at me because I went. She thinks I should not have gone because she wasn't invited. Abby, there is no reason why Lisa should have been invited -- she's not related to Bob, and I am related only through marriage. Also, she's never even met the bride. Do you think she's justified in being angry and insulted over this? Now she hates me because I attended the wedding.
Lisa is in her 50s and I am in my 80s. -- HURT IN BROOKLYN
DEAR HURT: Lisa's behavior is childish and unreasonable. Do not permit your daughter to lay a guilt trip on you. If she "hates" you for attending a wedding to which she was not invited -- it's her problem, not yours.