Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Parents Can't Keep Up with On-Again, Off-Again Relationship

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My son has been dating a young woman he met at his last job for quite awhile now, well sometimes. They have gotten together, broken up, gotten back together, broken up, and so on, more times than I can count. As a matter of fact, I am not certain I can even call it breaking up, since I am not sure they are a bona fide couple.

Whatever the case, when they’re “together,” she is practically a part of the family, and we happily welcome her. Next thing we know, she is out of the picture, and someone else is stopping by with our son.

I have no desire to pry, but I can see that my wife gets excited at the thought that our son has someone he might be serious about. Then she is disappointed when there is someone different in the picture.

I know my wife is dying to ask our son what the story is with the woman we all like, but I keep telling her to stay out of it. Do you think I am right, or is my wife? --- WHAT, IF ANYTHING, TO DO?

DEAR WHAT, IF ANYTHING, TO DO?: While I fully empathize with your wife’s desire to know what’s happening in your son’s life, I have to side with your non-interference policy.

If your son chooses to let you know about his personal life, that’s one thing. But if he hasn’t volunteered information up to this point, you’re probably better-off letting this sometimes sleeping dog lie.

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