Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Perceived Vanity vs. Practicality Divides Couple

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My wife has always hated her nose and been self-conscious of it since she was a teenager. I have never had a problem with her nose, but have always hated our kitchen. Her grandfather just left her $5000, and now she wants to spend it on a nose job, and I want to put it towards a kitchen remodel that we already have some money put aside for.

Doesn’t it make more sense to put the cash toward something that will help with our home now and when we go to sell it in a few years, instead of blowing it all on some point of vanity. --- LOVE HER NOSE

DEAR LOVE HER NOSE: What you see as petty vanity may be a legitimate self-image problem for your wife. I get your point of practicality, but I also think you need to seriously consider your wife’s happiness, making sure you take into account all aspects of cosmetic surgery, including potential dangers and benefits.

Ultimately, if the money was left to her alone, its hers to spend; and while as her life partner, it’s reasonable for you to have a say, the final decision is hers.

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