Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

New Male Roommate Puts Dad on Edge

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Having grown up in the 60s and 70s, I hardly consider myself old-fashioned, but when my daughter announced a “buddy” of hers from work was moving into her apartment, I began thinking maybe I’m more like my father than I want to admit.

She has only known her coworker less than a year. She tells me he has a girlfriend, and my daughter has been seeing someone for a few months now. I thought she and her boyfriend were doing really well, but I am having trouble seeing how this new living arrangement bodes well for their continuing as a couple.

Here’s where I sound like my dad when I say I have serious doubts about men and women living together as “just roommates”. Have I crossed the dateline into old fogeyism? --- A MAYBE NOT SO COOL DAD

DEAR A MAYBE NOT SO COOL DAD: You may not be an old fogey, at least not yet, but you do need to give your daughter credit for having good reasons to accept her male coworker as her new roommate. It isn’t all that unusual of an arrangement. For decades now I’ve heard of men and women living successfully together simply as roommates.

Any objections or concerns your daughter’s boyfriend and her roommate’s girlfriend have are between the couples and up to them to resolve.

Bottom-line, Dad, this is not your rodeo.

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