Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Kind-Hearted Roommate Keeps Bringing Stray Cats Home

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My roommate is one of those people who loves animals more than people. She’s also very kind and feeds stray cats in the neighborhood, which I think is fine.

What I’m not so good with is that she brings them into our house sometimes when the weather is bad. I’ve done some research on what problems can come along with strays, and I am worried the street cats will expose our own house cats to some dangerous diseases. I’ve brought this up with my roommate every time she brings a stray in, even for the night, but she doesn’t believe she’s doing any harm.

What can I do to convince her to keep her stray cat- caregiving outdoors? --- WANT TO KEEP MY CATS SAFE

DEAR WANT TO KEEP MY CATS SAFE: For starters, you should share the specific information you’ve found about communicable feline diseases with your roommate, if you haven’t already. Generalities may not be enough to convince her.

If that doesn’t make any difference, I strongly recommend having a conversation with your veterinarian to get some guidance and their take on introducing strays to house pets. Having your roommate in on the discussion would be a good idea, so that you both have the same information to work with moving forward.

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