Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Neighbors' Noisy Sex Life Causes Problems for Young Mother

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: After my husband and I divorced, I moved with our four-year-old daughter to a two-bedroom apartment not far from my mom’s, which works out, since she helps with my daughter when my ex can’t.

It’s a nice building overall, but it is far from sound-proofed, and we often can hear what goes on in our neighbors’ apartments. The two women who live right above us are partiers of the first order, and they specialize in overnight guests and lengthy sex sessions that are loud enough to wake both me and my daughter up, sometimes several nights a week.

I certainly do not want to come off as up-tight, and I honestly don’t care what they do, but I have a young child who asks questions and is cranky in the morning because she doesn’t always get enough sleep.

I can’t afford to move, and I don’t want to make enemies of my neighbors, but do you think I should let them know that we hear what they’re up to? --- NEED MY REST

DEAR NEED MY REST: I don’t think it’s unreasonable to let your neighbors know the sounds of their leisure pursuits make it past their four walls and floorboards.

If you’re not comfortable having it come directly from you, you could consider contacting your landlord/lady or the management company in charge of the building. You have a young child to think of, and that can certainly be stressed when you approach either the neighbors or the building people.

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