Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Mom's Ex Makes Move on Daughter

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My mother dated this slightly younger guy for a few months. He was the one who broke it off, and right after that, he started Instagramming me a few times a day. I blocked him there, on my phone, then on Facebook and Twitter, but he keeps trying to get in touch with me anyway, now by sending me notes in the mail, which I toss out without opening.

This guy knows I have a boyfriend, but that doesn’t seem to make any difference to him. So far, he hasn’t tried showing up anywhere in person, but I figure that’s the next step.

Honestly, I don’t feel threatened by him, but I still haven’t told my mother about all this yet. I don’t want her to feel responsible in any way and I don’t want the possibility that he stopped seeing her so he could try for me to hurt her. He did that enough when he dumped her.

Am I wrong to keep this from her? --- TRYING TO SHAKE-OFF MOM’S EX

DEAR TRYING TO SHAKE-OFF MOM’S EX: You may not feel threatened by this guy, but I find it disturbing that he’s stalking you. Hopefully, you’ve clued your boyfriend and other friends into what’s happening.

I get that you don’t want to upset your mother, but I think that since this could become a safety issue, she should know what her ex has been up to. His ending the relationship may seem like a double-blessing when she finds out about his creeper factor.

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