Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Ex Moves into the Same Building

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: As I was taking out the trash the other night, I ran into an old flame in the lobby of my building. Even though we have not seen each other in years, it was still awkward, especially because things did not end well with us. He could not stop lying to me about big stuff, little stuff, and pretty much every time he opened his mouth.

When he told me he was moving into my building, I didn’t know if I should believe him or not, but I saw his name on a mailbox, so I guess he was telling the truth — for once.

I truly have no love left for this man, but I cannot entirely get past my loathing of him. I do not want him to have the satisfaction of seeing me get rattled when we meet, as we are sure to do. There is a decent gym in the building, and the older units, like mine, have not had washers and dryers installed yet. Besides myself, I know some of my friends will s##t a brick when they see him. One in particular hated him from the get-go.

How do I bump into this guy without letting him know he still drives me nuts? --- FUTURE BAD NEIGHBOR

DEAR FUTURE BAD NEIGHBOR: Why let him see he still gets your blood boiling, and not in a good way? Simply smile whenever you see him. Be polite, brief, and don’t allow him to start any conversations. Fill your friends in on the plan.

You were there first, and you should clearly demonstrate that as far as you’re concerned, he’s as important to you as the lobby wallpaper.

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