DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: The restaurant where I was working as a hostess/business office helper went to carryout only when COVID-19 hit. The owners were really good about trying to rotate through the staff so everyone got a few hours a week, but they had to stop that to just keep in business. I am now on unemployment and have had to move back in with my mom.
The only good thing is I’m able to help out at my mom’s with my grandparents, both in their 80s and both have health problems. Mom’s a 911 dispatcher, and has been working odd shifts because of the county’s social distancing rules.
Even with helping with my grandparents, I feel kind of useless and like a failure, especially since I don’t see how some businesses are going to be able to hire anytime soon, if they even reopen at all, that is.
If I have to live here for a long time, I think I’ll go nuts. We all get along, but it is such a backslide for me it hurts. I’m trying to stay positive, but need all the help I can get. --- 24 AND BACK AT MOM’S
DEAR 24 AND BACK AT MOM’S: It’s time to make some lemonade out of the lemons you’ve been tossed.
By taking stress off your mom in the care of your grandparents, you’re helping serve both your community and your family. It must be nice for your mom to come home to a clean house and a hot meal (hint, hint), without her having to worry about either.
Financially, you can use some of your unemployment and/or stimulus money to help with the household expenses, and also put some funds away for when you’re back on your feet and on your own again.
This isn’t going to last forever, and some aspects of life will most likely stay different than before the pandemic, but most things will return to the way they were, and I highly suspect your independence will be among them.
Hang in there. As an older friend of mine used to say, “Better days are coming.”
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