Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Parents Fear for ER Nurse Daughter & A Note from “Mom”

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our daughter is an emergency room nurse in Florida. She has two small children and a husband, who is a high school biology teacher. While our son-in-law keeps us posted about what’s happening when our daughter can’t, we worry that if something happens to her, he won’t want to frighten us and we won’t know until things are really bad, and everything we see on the news only makes it worse.

We couldn’t be prouder of our daughter and all the medical people holding the front lines. But how do we convince our son-in-law that not only can we take the truth, but we need to hear it? --- PROUD BUT WORRIED IN OREGON

DEAR PROUD BUT WORRIED IN OREGON: I think it’s reasonable for you to openly share your feelings with both your daughter and her husband. It’s possible they need to hear directly from you how serious you are about wanting to be part of their lives, especially now. They may be hoping to shield you, not realizing that in some instances, the lack of reliable, first-hand reports can be worse than all the information overload to which we’re constantly exposed.

A Note from “Mom”

Like the parents in today’s letter, my family and I are proud of, and incredibly grateful to, all the men and women and their families, who are rising to the occasion and tending not only to COVID-19 victims, but to everyone else in need in our communities.

To the medical staff at all levels, first responders, public health workers, military personnel, essential retail employees, and everyone putting their own health and safety on the line to help keep the rest of us safe and well — thank you for all you do, and may God bless you and your efforts.

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