Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Family Business Is Not for LW

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My mom and dad started their restaurant when my brothers and I were little. Both of my brothers have made it clear they don’t want to take the place over when my parents retire. I’m the youngest and the only girl, and in the culture my parents were both raised in, that means it all falls on me to make up for what my big brothers don’t want to do. Like them, though, I really don’t want to take over the restaurant in a few years when Mom and Dad retire. I’ve hinted at this, but don’t have the nerve to tell them outright.

Since it isn’t happening for years yet, do you think there’s any harm in letting it ride for a while? --- NOT INTERESTED

DEAR NOT INTERESTED: I think your parents need to know your intentions sooner rather than later. By being honest with them, you’re allowing them more time to consider their real options, rather than letting them go on believing their business’ future is settled.

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