Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

New Parents Overwhelmed by Too Much Help

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: We just had our first baby, and for the first few weeks, while I was recovering from a c-section, it was great having both my and my husband’s parents around to help.

Now that I’m completely recovered and wanting to take over from here, all our helpers are still hanging around — as in all the time.

I really do appreciate their wanting to do what they can, but it’s gotten to the point where I’m practically not even allowed to take care of my own baby.

Is there something wrong with me that I don’t want all this around-the-clock help? --- HAD ENOUGH HELP

DEAR HAD ENOUGH HELP: In many ways you’re fortunate to have so much support in these early, often exhausting days of parenthood. But I can understand where it could get to be too much, and your growing nuclear family needs time to get used to your new life.

One way to find some middle ground might be to assign specified shifts to your helpful family members to stop by for their part of pitching in. A few hours a week would give you a little break and afford them not only a chance to help, but also affirmation that you appreciate what they’re so happy to do for you. Besides, like most newly-minted grandparents your folks need their grandbaby fix.

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