Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

BF's Family Movie Night Choices Are Far from PG

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My boyfriend asked me if he could start being part of the family movie night I’ve had with my kids (ages 5 and 7) since right after their dad and I divorced. My ex usually has them on Saturdays, so this has been a nice way to have chill time for me and my boys.

My boyfriend is big into action movies. We’re not just talking Avengers and Transformers. He goes for rougher stuff, with a lot of language and what I consider too graphic violence. Last time, he came over with a Quentin Tarantino movie and I drew the line. He doesn’t see anything wrong with these types of movies because he reasons that boys love this stuff. If my kids were older, maybe, but don’t you think I’m right when I ask him to keep things at the most PG-13? --- PROTECTING MY BOYS

DEAR PROTECTING MY BOYS: I’m absolutely with you on this one. These are your kids, and it’s up to you to set standards for what you consider appropriate for them to watch. There are plenty of PG-13 action movies out there that are fine for younger children.

I’d still advise some vigilance. The PG-13 rating can be stretched to the very edge of R, as you probably already know.

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